“Sometimes during a moment of silence you get to hear everything.”
Ever watch "For the Love of the Game"? It's a movie about a older pitcher who has learned to clear out all the noise around him in order to focus on throwing his pitch with accuracy. He mutes out all the surrounding sound of the fans, a train passing by, and all he can hear is himself. The quote above could refer to a moment like this, the of silencing of a crowd, or it can refer to a silence among a few, or it can obviously refer to the silence you can create when you are alone. In each instance, you get to experience hearing “everything”.
Allow me to explain the benefits through my own experience…When the noise around me is silenced, I begin by hearing my inner, most deep thoughts. As the silence persists, what I hear expands from my internal thoughts to my external world. I get to hear the world that belongs to me and no one else. If done effectively, everything around me becomes clear. I enter “my world”.
Ever step out of your body and sense the room around you? Have you ever experienced the clarity of your world? It is scintillating if you can do it. Maybe this is why so many people meditate nowadays?
There is little else that I enjoy more than sitting in silence at the end of the day. Some people prefer to take time to meditate in the morning to start their day, to enter their day in a clear mind. They use it to prepare themselves for the day ahead. There are also those like myself that like to use the time at the end of the day to reflect back, surrounded by silence. At some point during my reflection, I will find myself with a smile. Life is good, right? I have a healthy wife and healthy kids. Everything else is just icing on the cake.
The world moves so fast. I have a collection of photographs of my family on my computer, which are used as a screensaver slideshow. It tells me how quickly time proceeds without ever stopping to ask us, “are we going too fast?” It is up to us to ask ourselves that question and attempt to savor more of it. Savor more of our time that is possibly the most elusive thing we know. My favorite way to do that is to sit in silence for some time at the end of each day. It provides me the feeling that I can almost slow time down during those moments.
Go ahead and give it a try. See how long you can stretch the silence out. Keeping in mind that anyone can just sit in silence, but it can be difficult to not start thinking about things that need to get done or conversations you feel the need to either re-hash or pre-hash. That defeats the purpose, however. The goal is similar to meditation: to find inner peace. Allow yourself to completely silence the noise and hear everything. To me, that means allowing myself to touch upon a sixth sense so I can hear “my world”.
I start some coaching sessions with an offer to begin with the opportunity for a quick meditation where I help my client to clear their mind. I help them to create a room of silence in their own minds where things come more clearly. We have so many distractions in this world, it is very difficult to clear our minds and tap into that inner silence and clarity. And that makes it all the more important when trying to make all the difficult decisions we face in our lives.
I suggest trying to become clearer and more confident on our decisions. That tends not to happen when decisions are made under the duress of all of our other distractions. Try to enter the world of silence to gain that clarity, and you will leave it with confidence.
Coach Randal Suozzo, CPC, ELI-MP