I recently celebrated being married to my wonderful wife for
nine years. She has taught me a lot and I only hope that she has learned half
as much from me as I have from her along our journey together. I find it truly
amazing how much I have grown as a person. Not that I thought I knew
everything, but I had a lot of confidence before I got married and I liked to
think that I already had many things figured out. Deep down inside I knew I
really didn’t have as much figured out as I wished I did. So I was lucky
enough, and smart enough to understand that there was much that I didn’t
already know because it presented me the opportunity to grow.
What I did know was that I would need to be flexible and
open-minded in my marriage. That each of us is our own person and even if we
had many common values, we came into each other’s life with our own
experiences. Therefore, we may not always share the same opinions, but that
didn’t make someone right and someone wrong. I have learned that the one who is
wrong is the one that insists that they are right. For two people, right and
wrong isn’t necessarily black and white. Respecting the other persons beliefs
when you don’t agree with them can be difficult to do. But really how difficult
is it when the other person is the one you promised to spend the rest of your
life with and have built your relationship with, a relationship based on love?
I am happy in my marriage and thankful that I found my bride.
My wife teaches me how to be a better person in every sense. In order for
marriage to work, you have to be willing to change. Not changing who you truly are,
but growing who you are. You have to be willing to change by learning to become
better. In my marriage, I have improved upon myself by learning from my wife in
areas such as empathy, compassion, kindness, generosity, friendship, and love. We
learn from each other.
In my life, I have always tried to take the best of the
people closest to me and be the best that I could be. My wife is the closest
person in my life. I am grateful that she has so many redeeming qualities from
which I can learn. It has been a fulfilling nine years. Both of our parents are
close to fifty years in marriage and happy as ever. May my wife and I be as
successful in our marriage as they are. There are moments when I like to
picture us another 41 years from now, holding hands and smiling at each other
with the understanding that we may have started together with different
experiences, but have gained so many more together. For now, I plan to enjoy
the moment that is and smile because we are loving and growing together.
Enjoy Life.
Coach Randal Suozzo, CPC, ELI-MP
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